Friday, December 27, 2013

Post Christmas

I love Christmastime and I am always a little sad when it's over, but I am also a little relieved . The hustle and bustle of taking care of Dennis, working and gettting ready for the holidays takes it toll on me after awhile.  I did love seeing my family at Christmas and it makes me sad we don't see each other more during the year, but our lives are all so busy.  We need to take more time and slow down.  Here are some snaps of my family during the holidays.  My daughter Whitney and her husband Nick.
 Dennis with his gifts from Santa!
Whitney and I in our Christmas jammies on Christmas morning.
We hope everyone had a blessed Christmas and will pray for everyone a Happy New Year!
Much love, Cheri

Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Mary, Did You Know?

Being a mother I often wonder about Mary.  During the joy of childbirth did she really understand God's plan for her son.  Did she worry the whole time he was growing up about what was to come?The heartbreak of watching Him suffer unspeakable cruel torture and then watching Him die on the cross....for us.  Thank you, God for sending your son to save us, the best gift ever.  Merry Christmas and much love, Cheri

Saturday, December 21, 2013

Pre Christmas

I love the holiday time of cooking and baking and buying and wrapping gifts.  I have to keep myself in check about what the holiday is all about or I tend to get wrapped up in the festive part and not the Christ part.  Today we are getting ice and then it started snowing and I had made candy and cocoa and breads, when of course my sink clogs.  I know a young man who works for a plumber and he came over.  Then our friend Max stopped in so we were in good hands.   It took three times, but they finally got it going. 

I had a pot of chili on the stove so Josh got to take home chili, candy and chex mix.  These guys were life savers.  I think God puts people in your life for a reason and I am so glad he has put some of these people around us.
Like I said I had made candy and I would like to thank whoever makes this.  They made my life a lot easier!
The whole weekend it has been sleeting and now snowing.  My retro room has been very cozy.  My favorite things at Christmas are the decorations.

One thing that makes me sad this year.  I posted a few years back one of my favorite things about Christmas was seeing the candles lit at Grandma's house across the street.  This photo was from a few years back.

 This year we had to move Grandma to the nursing home and her house is now up for sale.  It makes my heart sad but it also reminds me how precious time is and to spend it wisely.
Everyone have a Blessed Christmas!  Much love, Cheri

Friday, November 29, 2013


This year I am going to be selfish in what I am thankful for.  Dennis and I are thankful for both of our parents, who have sacrificed much for us.  I am very thankful for my mom, who while our community built on to our house while we were in Houston in rehab, she sold her house and downsized to move her and daddy in to their new room at our house.  My dad had three years living with us before he passed and I am so grateful for that time.  My mom took over cooking duty and staying with Dennis, since I work full time.  I give her a pass on the weekends because I do love to cook when I have the time.  This year we planned Thanksgiving and did some cooking the night before so it wasn't so much in the morning.  I woke up to the smell of coffee and turkey and I have never been more grateful to have her here.  When life overwhelms me, she talks me off of the ledge. She is a great counselor and confidante.  This year it was only us three for thanksgiving but you would have thought we were feeding an army.  We won't have to cook all weekend!  If I hadn't had a praying momma when I was younger I don't know what would have happened to me, so this Thanksgiving I am grateful that she had God and talked to Him daily on my behalf and still does.   Happy Thanksgiving, much love, Cheri

Our bountiful feast!

Monday, November 25, 2013


This song has become Dennis and I's anthem, these are the lyrics.

         Never Once

Standing on this mountaintop
Looking just how far we’ve come
Knowing that for every step
You were with us

Kneeling on this battle ground
Seeing just how much You’ve done
Knowing every victory
Was Your power in us

Scars and struggles on the way
But with joy our hearts can say
Yes, our hearts can say

Never once did we ever walk alone
Never once did You leave us on our own
You are faithful, God, You are faithful

Kneeling on this battle ground
Seeing just how much You’ve done
Knowing every victory
Was Your power in us

Scars and struggles on the way
But with joy our hearts can say
Yes, our hearts can say

Never once did we ever walk alone
Never once did You leave us on our own
You are faithful, God, You are faithful
You are faithful, God, You are faithful

Scars and struggles on the way
But with joy our hearts can say
Never once did we ever walk alone
Carried by Your constant grace
Held within Your perfect peace
Never once, no, we never walk alone

Never once did we ever walk alone
Never once did You leave us on our own
You are faithful, God, You are faithful

Every step we are breathing in Your grace
Evermore we’ll be breathing out Your praise
You are faithful, God, You are faithful
You are faithful, God, You are faithful

You are faithful, God, You are faithful
You are faithful, God, You are faithful

There couldn't be any truer lyrics for us than these.   We went to the infectious disease doctor on Thursday last week and the medicines that he had been on were not something that would work for this type of infection.  So... they put a pic line in and we give him shots three times a day of a very strong antibiotic and he takes one orally.  I'm not going to lie, this has kind of disrupted our pattern around here.  I have to give him his shot at 6:30 a.m,  and then home health gives him the 2:30 shot.  I give him the shot at 10:30 at night.  We have to do this for 6 weeks.  We are praying that this is going to knock this infection out and Dennis won't have to feel crummy but until then we are praying that he doesn't feel bad all through the holidays.  I hope my prayer warriors will pray in agreement  with us.  But, this is just one more testimony to the fact the God is taking us through this and He once again is guiding and directing our paths.  He has never left us and He is seeing us through this.  I don't know where we would be without Him.  On another note, we got our first dusting of snow and our squirrels came out in full force.  We have nuts buried all over the yard!

Much love, Cheri

Monday, November 18, 2013

It's always something!

SCI's(Spinal Cord Injury) are hard enough and then there is the every day crap that goes along with having a spinal cord injury.  I do believe that my husband has to be the most patient man alive and it is not by choice.  If it is late at night and he needs something scratched, I don't jump right up and do it.  I first say "really" like he would make it up so I could jump out of bed at 3:30.  Then I lumber out of bed and take my time.  My blogger friend Dana said she is passive agressive toward her husband who is also in a wheelchair and I think that is maybe true of a lot of caregivers. We do what we need to do in a detached way while harboring agressive feelings inside.  Dennis can not feed himself, so what is the chore I hate the most?  You get the drift?  He never gets things done the minute he asks, it's always later or if I forget he will have to remind me again, and as I have said many times you may think I am a selfish person but that is OK, because I love Dennis and will be the first to mow down anyone who hurts or is mean to him in any way. This is what sucks about SCI, you can be going along feeling great and life is good, which is so few and far between in SCI world that you have to enjoy the moments.  Just when you think OK, we got this, something out of left field hits you.  Dennis's pressure sore on his ankle tested positive for ecoli and some other things.  He gets to take a shot for two weeks and an antibiotic to go along with the shot.  It sucks.  He is feeling great and now this comes at us. They told him he is going to feel like crap, but the last time this happened he didn't so we are trying to be very positive.  It is for two weeks, we can do this!  The great thing is that God is right beside us, and He will never leave us or forsake us.   We are going to be praising Him in this storm and giving Him the glory when we get to the other side. In the mean time I have my Christmas up and I am going to sit back and enjoy.  (Don't judge me).  I have done a couple of projects and I'll show some photos.

This is the only one I have finished this year.

And this is my baby Deacon wishing he could go run in the front and chase cats.

 I will go wash my glass door now.   Much love, Cheri

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Patio Room

I am having blogging block right now so I thought I would show you my patio room that I have made in to my 70's room!  If you follow my blog you know that I was born in the 50's (yes, i am old) and I love everything about the 60's and 70's.   I decided to do my patio room in the decades and time that I love.  Here is a before shot.  I could only find one very dated shot of my patio room but you will get the idea, and I was painting so don't look at the chairs!

Here is what I did.  some will hate and some won't but I love it and I'm glad I took the plunge.
 My bookcase.  I couldn't find a bookcase I liked or wanted to spend the money on so I took my Walmart black laminate one and painted it.

I got the clock at an Antique store and the old screw on legs with the brass coating on ebay.  I painted it orange and on the inside yellow.  The old tin watering can I love, the elephant was my husbands Grandma's.  You lift up the center of the elephant and it has five little ashtrays inside.  It is adorable.

Dennis's grandma had to go to the nursing home so we sold a lot of her stuff.  Some I bought because I couldn't stand to see someone else have Grandma's things.  We took her yellow velor couch and it went perfect in here.  Also her coffee table and ashtrays.  By the way, none of us smoke they are just for looks!  Grandma knitted that afghan.

The table has Grandmas grapes sitting on it, she made them and they are awesome!
This corner has a lot going on.  It's Grandma's console AM/FM radio, 8 track player and turntable.  I have Dennis's old albums and my old albums plus some of Grandmas.  We have a few 8 tracks and all my old 45's.  We have Grandmas really cool lamp and I have my old Beatle pillow I have had since 4th grade. Of course you have to have some T.V. trays. 

I framed two of our album cover and I switch them out as the mood strikes me.  Right now os Rollings Stones and Crosby Stills, Nash and Young.
I had this kitchen cart and I just loaded it down with things I love. 

I had bought this chair and I had it recovered.  I bought the pillow cover on ebay.  Grandma had this old plastic faded yellow table outside.  I dusted the cobwebs off and painted it orange and ordered this sticker to put on it.  I love it!
This room makes me happy and I'm all about that!  Much love, Cheri
What you don't see is at the other end is Dennis's computer and my treadmill, it messes up the theme but what can you do!

Monday, October 14, 2013

FCA Rally

As many of my friends will tell you, I held on to a scripture for dear life when Dennis was in the hospital.  It is Psalms 30:5... weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.  I would say that scripture every night wondering if I would every laugh again and knowing in my heart that God's promises are true.  As I have said before on my blog, Joy is not an emotion, it is a decision, and Dennis and I made the decision that we would live in joy no matter what our circumstances were.  Nehemiah tells us that the Joy of our Lord is our strength.  Dennis and I need that source of strength, the supernatural kind.  Dennis had the chance to talk to a lot of kids at Fairview's FCA rally last week and his topic was of course, Joy.  For those of you who don't know FCA stands for Fellowship of Christian Athletics.  These kids are awesome.
This is our high school gym where the rally took place.  Kids from surrounding towns came and it was a great time.  We had praise and worship with Travis Schmidt from the Mennonite Brethren church.

 Those two ladies on the right are some awesome friends of mine, Pearl and Debbie!
Then our neice Karley introduced Dennis and he gave a talk about his accident and what led him to the Lord and then being joyful in all circumstances.

The main speaker was a great kid named Tyler Zander.  He lost his leg two summers ago in a grain auger accident.  He gave his testimony about his accident, bitterness and forgiveness.  He is doing great and a sophomore at the greatest school ever, OSU!  He was truly inspiring. 

At the end they had some questions and answers.

It was a truly inspiring night and our thanks to Linda Zimmerman for inviting us.  She does so much for these kids and has a true ministry.  That's Linda with the Christ #1 t-shirt on.  Thanks, Linda!

                                              Much love, Cheri

Thursday, October 10, 2013

Road Trip - Stillwater (cont)

These are some pictures we took while we were in Stillwater.  This is the ware memorial at Boomer Lake

 Whitney and Dennis drove down the path.
The Stadium!  Go Pokes!!!
The new training facility.
Much love, Cheri

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Quad Wife Confessions-Road trip, Behind the Scenes!

Ok, the week of my vacation started out with me painting a dresser, I had to go in to the house and of course I was barefooted, hit my toe on the stool and broke my toe.
It hurt.....
So we went on a couple of small day trips and then Friday of my vacation we were going to take my mom to Del City, Ok. so she could go to her Alumni party.  My aunt was bringing her home and then staying a few days.  It is about a 2 hr trip to Del City so we started out about 10:30.  Dennis's pacemaker went off as we were getting in the van but we didn't care, we had the spare and you have about 6 hours from when the first alarm sounds.  So off we go to the OKC.  When we got to Del City we had lunch with my aunt Rubena and mom at a cafe.  Here is how they made it ADA approved.  Slapped down concrete and duct taped the hand rail.  LoL!
Well, we ate our dinner and my mom and I ordered their famous coconut cream pie but it was taking a long time and Dennis and I decided to get going.  I told the waitress to cancel our order ( Dennis and I was going to share a piece).  We left and went downtown to the Memorial and got lost.  I took Dennis to a part of town that I knew we were not suppose to be in, so we headed north and found the memorial.  I parked and decided to hide the other pacemaker in a good spot since it is so expensive and Medicare will not pay for another one.    I paid for the weird parking (see previous post) and set out for the Memorial.  We got through the third floor and got in the elevator to go to the second floor when Dennis's pacemaker alarm went off again.  And then off again.  I was like OK find a bench on the second floor and pull over.  We found a bench and I was going to change the batteries out. (we always carry a spare).  So here is what I looked like on the second floor of the bombing memorial.
It was a little worse than this cause I had all but dumped my purse out on the bench along with his bag.  I could not find a screw driver to unscrew the piece that holds the battery.  I did not panic because my very calm husband asked if I had a  pocket knife and I did.  But it was too little and I got one side of the tray but not the other.  The allen wrenches were worthless and by this time people were beginning to notice us.  Finally, I kept thinking what would MacGyver do??  I know my father-in-law well enough to know that he would have put a screwdriver in this bag somewhere, and finally I found a little zipped part and there was the screwdriver!  So I got the new battery in and turned it on and the battery was old and wouldn't work.  I quickly put the other battery back in and we went through the second floor in record time.  As we were walking to the car I started looking for my car keys and nope, not in my bag.  We got to the car and my husband who thinks things through, always has a spare set and we got in.  As I was getting ready to go back up to the second floor to where I dumped my purse, I spotted the keys sitting where I had hid Dennis's second pacemaker.   Thank You Jesus!  We switched out pacemakers and went to my favorite antique store.  I called my mom as we were leaving the city.  She was getting ready for her alumni banquet and she had gotten food poisoning from the coconut cream pie and was throwing up!  Thank you God for directing Dennis and I to leave earlybecause that would have been a disaster.  Mom got better in time for her banquet and Dennis and I still had a great outing because God is in control of our lives and He never leaves us or forsakes us.  Did we panick?  no.  Did we get scared?  no. This is why I always call these quad  wife confessions because what I did get was annoyed.  I wanted to see the second floor and I had to hurry through.  Oh well, we will have to take another trip there!   DON'T JUDGE ME :)   Much love, Cheri



Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Road Trip-OKC Bombing Memorial part #2

When we went in to the memorial we were lead to the 3rd floor and
went into a room that had an actual recording of the the Water Board resources meeting.  She hit her gavel at 9:00 and started the meeting and at 9:02 you hear the bomb go off.  Doors open and it takes you through the chaos of the following minutes.  Even though we remember the day, this reminds us of the horror that everyone went through in the following minutes.  The first helicopter video and the shock when we saw half the building gone.

We went through and saw the displays of baby shoes and eyeglasses and car keys.  This is the actual sign made by a man on the 9th floor.

It had a lot of photos of the many dogs they used but this one melted my heart.


 A man from New York made this when he saw the picture of the firefighter and the little baby.
The thing that really stuck out to me and I wish I would have got a picture was the way the pieced together the Ryder truck that carried the bomb.  They had tiny pieces and big pieces but they had them all lined out forming the truck.  In all that mess they had pieced together what they could.  It was amazing. 
As we left there was one last glimpse of Jesus.
In my next post I will have a quad wife confession of what went on behind the scenes of Dennis and I's day.  It was crazy and it was also God being in control of our lives.  Much love, Cheri

Saturday, September 21, 2013

Road Trip to the OKC Bombing Memorial Part 1

There are no words...
I didn't really know what to expect but I didn't expect to have to hold back tears or look into faces of people I had never met and wonder why they were there at the particular time.  And the babies......
I am doing this blog in two parts and the second part only a wife of a quad would understand!  The whole day was God's grace at work.  We got lost, then we had to park and ok, this is a picture of the parking meter.  I felt like I was an idiot!
If the parking attendant isn't there you put 5.00 in the slot your car is parked in and push your money in with that key?  Really..

Then we walked to the entrance and the first thing we saw was this beautiful statue of Jesus.  It was truly moving.

Then we went across the street to the gates and the entrance.

When you go into the courtyard it is stunning!

 They have 9:01 on the first building and then the chairs of the people who were killed placed in position of where they were in the building at 9:02, and then on the other end you have 9:03.  Beautiful....

I will do part 2 in my next blog.  Much love, Cheri