Sunday, July 28, 2013

Vintage Weekly-Paris

This is a post for Vintage Weekly .  This picture is from the evening we went up the Eiffel Tower.  I am scared of heights and on the way there I had decided to stay below and take pictures.  My friend Cathy looked and me and said, " You are going to come to Paris and NOT go up the Eiffel Tower?"
I went up and was very glad I did!

                           Much love, Cheri 

Saturday, July 20, 2013

Grand Lake

Normally this is the time of year we pack our many, many belongings in the 100 degree heat and go to Grand Lake with our friends.  For many reasons we are not making that voyage this year, but we will be there in spirit.  This photo is the bridge sitting right by where we stay in Honey Creek and I am posting it for Weekend Reflections.  As my husband says, it will always be home away from home.
P.S.  We are going to be taking some day trips during my week vacation so if anyone has any good suggestions in the Oklahoma area please let us know.  Much love, Cheri

Friday, July 12, 2013

Quad Wife Confessions

I have a blogger friend named Dana Ritter who is married to a lower level quad and she married him after his accident.  They fell in love and are one of the most honest and caring people I have met.  Even though we haven't ever met in person there is a community of us caregivers who feel like we all know each other and we lift each other up all the time.  Dana's blog is called Love Like This Life and I urge everyone to visit her sight.  She recently did a post called "I wonder if I can do this forever".  They are young and if I were in her shoes I would wonder the same thing.  Being a caregiver is a difficult position to be in.  You are not the one who is in the wheelchair but, nevertheless your life has changed also.  She was very candid and honest in her post and she got an overwhelming amount of support ....except for one comment,  from a quad, and he was not very supportive and a little mean.  It hurt Dana's feelings as I am sure it would anyone's.  I knew going into the blogging world that you were not going to make everyone happy 100% of the time, but I knew I wanted to be honest and hoped it would help other caregivers with feelings similar to mine.  I am sure some people's opinions of me have changed, some for the better and some not, but that is Ok.  It was never intended to be a popularity contest, it was intended to give you a peek inside the other part of Spinal Cord Injury, to the person  that is grieving, hurt, traumatized, lonely, scared, and oh so tired.  The person that feels a little trapped that they can't jump into the car and go to the store on a whim.  They can't go shopping without being on a time schedule so you are never quite relaxed.  You can't see your family as much as you would like or go to every function without having everything prepared and ready.  There is no spontaneity.  But if you complain or feel sorry for yourself people are quick to judge because after all you are fine, it's your spouse you should be feeling sorry for.  Not only that but as a caregiver we are usually our own worst enemies.  We feel guilty so we stay silent or we just tuck those feeling away and feel resentful.  One of the things I miss the most was having my lunch hour all to myself.  How shallow!  I think the whole point of what all of us are trying to say is don't judge until you have walked a mile in the shoes.  I don't like it when people tell us we are such an inspiration.  If they could see us when we are so frustrated and sad and mad...  we are just like every other couple.  But Dana and Mike said something that rings true no matter what, we are a team and if you hurt one then you hurt the other and watch out!  Thanks for letting me vent, much love, Cheri

Wednesday, July 3, 2013


I haven't posted in a while and it seems like a lot of things have happened but not anything worth blogging about.  One thing did happen that deserves a blog post.  My daughter is officially married!
They signed the paper and turned it into the courthouse.  They have been together 5 years and they just figured it was time.  Reception/vows/party pending.  We are very glad to see them married as we are a little old fashioned and believe in the unity and covenant of marriage.  I read them Matthew 19:5,
5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?[a] 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”  God does not see them as two, now He sees them as one flesh and how one reacts spiritually affects the other, good or bad.  I also pointed our to Nick that when he married our daughter he became our son and will be treated as such. (good or bad) lol!           I also read Jeremiah 29:11,
 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
The message I wanted to convey here was they have to call upon God, they have to seek and pray.  God is always there and he will always listen but you have to make the first move.
Marriage is hard with God, I can't imagine my own marriage if God had not been present in it.  There are trials and temptations but you can make it through with Him.  I am praying they make God first in their life and many blessings to follow.
                                                 Much love, Cheri